Monday, June 05, 2006

What Happens When There Is No Plan B?

I ran across an article today that I just had to blog about. If you are a reader of my blog, it's no secret that I'm a Conservative Republican. What you don't know is that I didn't get into politics until a few years ago. I always knew where I stood, but had no idea where my values, morals and beliefs fell in the political parties. I have no idea what conservative and liberal meant in the realm of politics. That all changed about 5 years ago. I try to keep my views to myself for dh's sake. I don't want people to equate my thoughts and feelings and such as his, though I know that that is bound to happen at some point. Recently on my blog, I have been talking about political things. This is a step out of my comfort zone, but it has been a good step. I have been met with opposition, as I expected. We joke quite often that we are red people in a blue state/city. In fact, we often joke that we are probably the only conservatives in the downtown area, lol. I can't vouch for how true that is, though.

Now, all that being said (ok, I'm not sure anymore why I said it. You see, I had this whole post written out, but when I went to publish it, Blogger rned into that page of death "Cannot find server" and I lost the whole thing. I'm trying to recreate by memory, which dh will tell you isn't so good!), I ran across this article today. It is from yesterday's Washington Post. I was a bit dumbstruck when I read it. I just don't get it. I'll sumarize the article in a few sentences for you.

Basically, the writer of the article is a 42 yr old woman who blames conservatism and President Bush for why she has to have an abortion after she forgot to put her diaphragm in during a passionate moment with her husband. She is upset because she could not get Plan B (basically the "morning after pill") over the counter. She opens the article with:

The conservative politics of the Bush administration forced me to have an abortion I didn't want. Well, not literally, but let me explain.

I am a 42-year-old happily married mother of two elementary-schoolers. My husband and I both work, and like many couples, we're starved for time together. One Thursday evening this past March, we managed to snag some rare couple time and, in a sudden rush of passion, I failed to insert my diaphragm.

The next morning, after getting my kids off to school, I called my ob/gyn to get a prescription for Plan B, the emergency contraceptive pill that can prevent a pregnancy -- but only if taken within 72 hours of intercourse. As we're both in our forties, my husband and I had considered our family complete, and we weren't planning to have another child, which is why, as a rule, we use contraception. I wanted to make sure that our momentary lapse didn't result in a pregnancy.

My first thought on this was HELLO! She's 42! She obviously knows what it takes to make babies, since she has 2 children already. Why is she blaming someone else for what she has already admitted was a "momentary lapse" of good judgement?

Let me insert here that she has every right to have an abortion. Abortions are legal in this country, and even though I don't agree with them, it's a choice women like her are legally allowed to make.

However, it certainly isn't President Bush's fault that she didn't insert her diaphragm. What is he supposed to do, come into her bedroom and remind her, like a child (the author, not the President), to use contraception? Come on! SHe's a grown woman! If she doesn't care enough about using contraceptives than she needs to take responsibility for her actions!

Look, I understand the need for couple time. We don't get that very often here. Passion and romance are hard to come by. But just because it's few and far between doesn't mean I'm not goin to stop and take precautions before we continue. Was she so afraid that she'd lose that moment of passion that she didn't want to stop for 30 seconds? If you know you don't want more children, you don't have momentary lapses. You take precautions.

Before you say I don't know what she's going through, I do. I was a junior in college when we found our we were pregnant with the twins. DH was a few months from graduation. Were we scared? Absolutely. Did we blame the President or the Fed. government for what happened? No. We blamed ourselves, because we were the only ones to blame.

She goes on to talk about how she wasn't able to get a script for Plan B. One of things she talks about is it isn't available over the counter.

Apparently, one of the concerns is that ready availability of Plan B could lead teenage girls to have premarital sex. Yet this concern -- valid or not -- wound up penalizing an over-the-hill married woman for having sex with her husband. Talk about the law of unintended consequences.

Ummm, so you think the FDA is penalizing you for having sex with your husband? How asanine! You both took the risk of having unprotected sex, yet it's someone else's fault? And it's someone elses fault that you felt you needed the morning after pill, yet couldn't get it over-the-counter?

Again, my issue is not with her abortion, because she has that right. My issue is with the fact that she wouldn't take responsibilty for her own actions. We, as college students, showed more maturity than a woman twice our age!

There are two excerpts at the end of the article that rubbed me the wrong way:

All the while, I was thinking that if religion hadn't been allowed to seep into American politics the way it has, I wouldn't even be there. This all could have been stopped way before this baby was conceived if they had just let me have that damn pill.


It was a decision I am sorry I had to make. It was awful, painful, sickening. But I feel that this administration gave me practically no choice but to have an unwanted abortion because the way it has politicized religion made it well-nigh impossible for me to get emergency contraception that would have prevented the pregnancy in the first place.

It all comes down to the fact that a grown woman and a grown man won't take responsibility for something THEY did. No one forced them to have unprotected sex. They are old enough to know the risks associated, and old enough to know how children are made. What are they teaching their other children (no, I'm not assuming they told them. Why would they?) if not that they don't have to be held accountable for their actions?

Bottom line is if you take the risk, assume responsibility for what follows.

Comments on "What Happens When There Is No Plan B?"


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (4:54 PM) : 

The fact that two grown adults won't take responsibility for their actions should come as no surprise to anyone. We live in an era where personal responsibility and moral fiber is rapidly becoming a thing of the past.

People these days would rather blame someone else than own up to their own stupid mistakes!



Blogger Erie's Argonaut said ... (5:02 PM) : 

I thought I was the only conservative republican in town! Maybe there are more of us than we think :-)


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (4:50 PM) : 

You're pretty judgemental of other people considering it appears you had two children out of wed lock. Matthew chapter 8 verse 5. Read and heed.


Blogger Trisha said ... (8:23 PM) : 

Matthew chapter 8 verse 5 says:

When he entered Capernaum, a centurion approached him and appealed to him,

Sorry, but that does not make any sense. I am not a centurion.

I was not judging her. I was simply saying that she needed to assume responsibility for the consequences of her actions. I am very well aware that I had 2 children out of wedlock. I have repented and been forgiven. I, unlike her, took responsibilty for my actions. It would have been easy for me to abort my babies, but I do not agree with abortion, personally. I can not fathom killing an innocent child, or in my cse children.

But my post was not about the fact that she had an abortion. I said several times that that is her right. I was simply upset that she could not and would not take responsibility for her and her husband's actions.


Blogger supposedly susan said ... (8:45 PM) : 

Poster "Steve" causes something Samuel Johnson said to come to mind:

“It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than open one's mouth and remove all doubt.”


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (8:25 AM) : 

She did take responsibility for her actions. She had her way you had yours. She didn't give birth and then put the baby in a dumpster. Who are you to decide the proper way for someone to take responsibility?

The same conservatives who are keeping plan B from being readily available are the same ones who have been trying to prevent the release of the HPV vaccine. A vaccine that can prevent one of the most common forms of cancer in women has been held up because the conservatives fear it could cause women to be promiscuous. ie Having sex outside of marriage.


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (9:51 AM) : 

I am sorry Steve but this woman was and is blaming conservatives and primarily the Bush administration for the fact that her ONE doctor wouldn't prescribe the plan B pill which then lead to her getting an abortion. That isn't responsibility to blame others.

You don't know me or my wife, First of all for having our wonderful Twins out of wed lock was a tough decision, but most importantly Trish and I knew that we were responsible for our own actions, and we never blamed anyone for that. In fact, if you want to throw out the labels of conservative and liberal we thought we were more liberal than conservative at that point in our lives. For us, yes we had children out of wed lock we don’t try to hide it but we don’t go out and announce it. We have asked God for forgiveness but we can’t go back and change it. Also, just because we did have the twins out of wed lock doesn’t make us any less Christian. We had to over come that and ask the Lord for forgiveness. It wasn’t something we were proud of but it was done. Fate was sealed so we had to move on. You will not see Trish or I get upset or judge someone for things like that.

If you Actually read what my wife said say you will see that all she did was just express an opinion. Dana L, based on the story, didn’t really want to have to go down the road of abortion, but she, like you, blame conservatives for the fact that this drug is not easily available. Now she had other choices and my wife said that although she doesn’t approve of abortion as a form of birth control she DID recognize that abortion is legal but there were other roads Dana L could have done had she really thought things through. Dana L. Also admitted in a Washington Post Chat that she could have gotten the Plan B pill FREE at Planned Parenthood here is the quote:

Myersville, Md.: Thanks for the honest article. Does Planned Parenthood distribute Plan B in Virginia or is it only available through MD offices? If not, is it because of Virginia's state laws regarding the distribution of birth control?
Dana L.: I believe Planned Parenthood distributes Plan B nationwide. Unfortunately for me, in my panic that Friday, I didn't even think of calling them.
So she had other choices and could have accomplished her goal with out “Conservatives” getting in her way as she says it. It is availbale at Planned Parent Hood nationwide. Last time I check conservatives didn't close them down.

Steve, my biggest problem here is that without knowing my wife or I, instead of talking about Dana L and her choices you had to personally attack us. May I ask what Trisha has ever done to you? Again, yes we did have our wonderful twin son’s out of wed lock and you Have No idea or clue why we chose to do what we did. All I can say is that it was the best thing for Trisha and her health and the health and well being of my son’s. plus, if you think you are going to stop us from having opinions because you highlighted a point in our life where we sinned then you are wrong. Are you without Sin Steve? Maybe you should read John 8:7 “Read & Heed” We all sin Steve. Again as a Christian I am not proud of my sin and I try not to sin. Unfortunately we all fall short. That doesn’t mean I or any Christian loses the right of free speech.


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (2:53 PM) : 

We, as college students, showed more maturity than a woman twice our age!

That is a judgement right there. You've judged the woman in the article to be less responsible than you.

Everything you have posted about me not knowing you or your circumstance applies to your knowledge of the woman in the article. However, because she and you have chosen a public forum you put yourselves under a microscope. But heaven forbid anyone look in and express an opinion about what they see!
It's ok for you to more closely examine the woman in the newspaper article but when I do it to your blog, it is a persoanl assault. Why is that? You're blogging of your own free will and you have a place for people to leave comments.


Blogger Trisha said ... (4:08 PM) : 

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