What Happens When There Is No Plan B?
|I ran across an article today that I just had to blog about. If you are a reader of my blog, it's no secret that I'm a Conservative Republican. What you don't know is that I didn't get into politics until a few years ago. I always knew where I stood, but had no idea where my values, morals and beliefs fell in the political parties. I have no idea what conservative and liberal meant in the realm of politics. That all changed about 5 years ago. I try to keep my views to myself for dh's sake. I don't want people to equate my thoughts and feelings and such as his, though I know that that is bound to happen at some point. Recently on my blog, I have been talking about political things. This is a step out of my comfort zone, but it has been a good step. I have been met with opposition, as I expected. We joke quite often that we are red people in a blue state/city. In fact, we often joke that we are probably the only conservatives in the downtown area, lol. I can't vouch for how true that is, though. |
Now, all that being said (ok, I'm not sure anymore why I said it. You see, I had this whole post written out, but when I went to publish it, Blogger rned into that page of death "Cannot find server" and I lost the whole thing. I'm trying to recreate by memory, which dh will tell you isn't so good!), I ran across this article today. It is from yesterday's Washington Post. I was a bit dumbstruck when I read it. I just don't get it. I'll sumarize the article in a few sentences for you.
Basically, the writer of the article is a 42 yr old woman who blames conservatism and President Bush for why she has to have an abortion after she forgot to put her diaphragm in during a passionate moment with her husband. She is upset because she could not get Plan B (basically the "morning after pill") over the counter. She opens the article with:
The conservative politics of the Bush administration forced me to have an abortion I didn't want. Well, not literally, but let me explain.
My first thought on this was HELLO! She's 42! She obviously knows what it takes to make babies, since she has 2 children already. Why is she blaming someone else for what she has already admitted was a "momentary lapse" of good judgement?
Let me insert here that she has every right to have an abortion. Abortions are legal in this country, and even though I don't agree with them, it's a choice women like her are legally allowed to make.
However, it certainly isn't President Bush's fault that she didn't insert her diaphragm. What is he supposed to do, come into her bedroom and remind her, like a child (the author, not the President), to use contraception? Come on! SHe's a grown woman! If she doesn't care enough about using contraceptives than she needs to take responsibility for her actions!
Look, I understand the need for couple time. We don't get that very often here. Passion and romance are hard to come by. But just because it's few and far between doesn't mean I'm not goin to stop and take precautions before we continue. Was she so afraid that she'd lose that moment of passion that she didn't want to stop for 30 seconds? If you know you don't want more children, you don't have momentary lapses. You take precautions.
Before you say I don't know what she's going through, I do. I was a junior in college when we found our we were pregnant with the twins. DH was a few months from graduation. Were we scared? Absolutely. Did we blame the President or the Fed. government for what happened? No. We blamed ourselves, because we were the only ones to blame.
She goes on to talk about how she wasn't able to get a script for Plan B. One of things she talks about is it isn't available over the counter.
Apparently, one of the concerns is that ready availability of Plan B could lead teenage girls to have premarital sex. Yet this concern -- valid or not -- wound up penalizing an over-the-hill married woman for having sex with her husband. Talk about the law of unintended consequences.
Ummm, so you think the FDA is penalizing you for having sex with your husband? How asanine! You both took the risk of having unprotected sex, yet it's someone else's fault? And it's someone elses fault that you felt you needed the morning after pill, yet couldn't get it over-the-counter?
Again, my issue is not with her abortion, because she has that right. My issue is with the fact that she wouldn't take responsibilty for her own actions. We, as college students, showed more maturity than a woman twice our age!
There are two excerpts at the end of the article that rubbed me the wrong way:
All the while, I was thinking that if religion hadn't been allowed to seep into American politics the way it has, I wouldn't even be there. This all could have been stopped way before this baby was conceived if they had just let me have that damn pill.
It was a decision I am sorry I had to make. It was awful, painful, sickening. But I feel that this administration gave me practically no choice but to have an unwanted abortion because the way it has politicized religion made it well-nigh impossible for me to get emergency contraception that would have prevented the pregnancy in the first place.
It all comes down to the fact that a grown woman and a grown man won't take responsibility for something THEY did. No one forced them to have unprotected sex. They are old enough to know the risks associated, and old enough to know how children are made. What are they teaching their other children (no, I'm not assuming they told them. Why would they?) if not that they don't have to be held accountable for their actions?
Bottom line is if you take the risk, assume responsibility for what follows.